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Taking a Break

…I know, I know. I HAVE been taking a break here. A big one, and if this is the only place you follow me, this will be a confusing post. The blog has been quiet because it doesn’t seem like this is the best way to communicate with readers anymore. I’m not sure anyone reads posts here, which means my words could be better used in books.

I have limited brain for Making Teh Werds, guys.

But I’m thinking about a far larger break from the world of Internet. It’s the perfect time for it. I’m between projects under my own name, and busy breaking ground on the project that’s due to my Bound trilogy editor in the new year. I’ve just released the second book in my pen name series, but I’m not planning any big promotion until the third book comes out in the fall.

I have my reader group on Facebook, but they don’t need me there to babysit them all the time. They’re a good crew.

…and honestly, aside from that group and book promotion needs, I’m beginning to realize that social media doesn’t do a lot for me. In fact, it’s become a constant source of stress.

That’s not to say social media is bad. Not by any means. Just that I’m realizing that I need to step away so I can keep it at arm’s length when I come back. I need to settle into my own life. I need to be bored enough that my work turns into play again, and I need to get out of the habit of framing experiences into photos or posts or tweets. I need to write without worrying that I should be marketing, and I need to reassess the f*ucks I really want to give about this business (to badly paraphrase Mark Manson*).

I need to turn my back on the courses I’ve signed up for on HOW TO SELL THOUSANDS OF PRE-ORDERS and HOW TO CRANK OUT SO MANY BOOKS YOU CAN’T EVEN REMEMBER WRITING THEM and take a few deep breaths so I can decide whether those are things I really want–and more to the point, whether I really want to sacrifice what it would cost me to do those things. It’s not that there’s anything wrong with those goals. I just want a little space to decide whether they’re right for me. Maybe those are goals I want to embrace. But maybe I want to define success differently.

The point is that there’s so much noise out there that I don’t even know what I want and what I’m being told I should want, and I’m not good at moderating my exposure.

I get overwhelmed easily. I’m choosing not to drown.

So I’m going to give myself one more week before the break. I’ll wrap up my most recent paperback giveaway on Instagram (which ends soon, if you want to check it out). I’m going to start another one just for my wonderful newsletter subscribers, because checking email is a thing I need to do anyway. I might do another post here and on Facebook showing off the newly formatted versions of the books in the Bound trilogy. Might even share some pictures from recent trips around Newfoundland.

And then I’m going to try to disappear for a bit.

I’m going to check in with my reader group once in a while.

I’ll check for messages on Instagram and Facebook Messenger once in a while, but they’re not going to be daily things (and yes, I can already feel the FOMO).

I’ve turned off messaging to my Facebook page (which has been glitchy and ineffective for months, leading to missed messages and incredible frustration).

My pen name may have a few things she needs to do, but as for me… I think I’m just about ready for a break.

And I feel really good about it.

All of this is to say that I’m fine, I’ll be back, I hope to be feeling much brighter and shinier when I return, and if you need to reach me, please email. I’ll still be checking that every few days at least, and it’s always the best way to reach me.

*I may have recommended “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck” already. If I haven’t before, I am now. I really enjoyed the audiobook–so much, in fact, that I bought the paperback so I could re-read, highlight, and lend it out.

 


Goodreads Giveaway!

In two days we’ll be celebrating Bound’s third birthday.

Bookday. Publaversary?

Whatever you want to call it, I’m excited! And I’m celebrating with a Goodreads giveaway. Want to enter to win a signed paperback copy of Bound? Enter here!

Good luck!

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Shadows in the Garden Hotel is now available

The Raven's Quill

When a book goes live with 13 5* reviews already in the world, it’s hard not to get excited about sharing it. Allegra Rossi, my problem child, is taking readers by surprise. If you’ve read the prequel and the first two installments of The Invisible Entente (which, if you haven’t done so yet, now is the perfect time, as Death at Peony House is currently on sale for 99c for probably the last time for a long while) then you know how Allegra can be. She’s cold, calculating, seductive, and generally not a person you want to spend time with if you can avoid it.

But don’t be fooled by the persona she shows the rest of the world. Her expectations for the people around her are just as high as those she places on herself. To us, she appears to be the epitome of perfection — her body…

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Beautiful Mess

Completely non-shocking confession: I’m a perfectionist.

I want everything I do to be perfect on the first try. Right away. Because something deep inside me thinks that if I’m not magically gifted at something, I shouldn’t try.

Now, I am also fully aware that this is BS, and I’m fighting it. It’s a stubborn mindset, though.

But I’m trying to change the way I look at risks, messes, and mistakes. Because sometimes? Sometimes you have to make a huge mess before you can create something beautiful, and you have to take a risk to get a reward.

I’m thinking about this today because I got my hair done. Well… half-done. It was getting dull after over a year of purple dye, and I wanted a fresh start from root to tip so I could get back to something brighter.

But do you know what happens when you bleach hair that’s been purple for 17 months?

Highlighter pink, that’s what happens.

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I mean, I think it’s kind of fun, but it’s not the end result I’m going for. The point is, this little OMG this is not what I want what have I done mess is a step toward what I do want. A necessary step.

I couldn’t get what I want if I didn’t move through the mess.

(And honestly, I’m now considering going berry pink for a while before I return to the Land of Purple. Sometimes messes aren’t so bad.)

Hair is a tiny thing, but it reminds me of a whole lot of bigger stuff.

First drafts can be like this, too. I can plan everything and still make a mess of it when my fingers hit the keyboard. That happened to me not too long ago, when I got to the mid-point of a book I was SUPER excited to write and realized it just wasn’t working.

I could have called it a failure and walked away. But my mess showed me what, exactly, wasn’t working. And when I had a consultation call with my wonderful editor last night, I was able to talk through those problems. Now I can’t wait to get back to it and start over (though I do have some other stuff going on with that whole urban fantasy pen name thing…)

Life can be like that, too.

I’m working through a few medical issues right now that are kind of hit-or-miss with medications. We try stuff, maybe it works, maybe I feel like crap for a month while we wait to see whether I’ll adjust to it, maybe we try something else.

While this is going on, my productivity is lower than it would normally be. It sucks. I panic and want to stop trying. I get sick of feeling sick. I want to give up. But I’m taking a chance, hoping that getting through this mess will mean things will be so much brighter on the other side that it will be worth slogging through the side-effect circus.

I’m making a mess so I can make it better, tearing down walls instead of just wallpapering over the cracks, making a mess so I can rebuild something solid instead of settling for a cosmetic cover-up.

And whether it’s did you mean to do that?! pink hair, stress-inducing dead ends on projects, or just trying to get my *stuff* together in life, I’m trying to be okay with the mess. Not every step of every journey needs to be pretty or perfect, as long as I’m learning and growing and not stressing too much in the meantime.

At least, that’s what I’m trying to teach myself. 🙂

 

 

 

 

 


“I’m real” and other lies we tell ourselves

All of the “me, too” here!

The Raven's Quill

That’s not to say it should be a lie, but more that, as I’ve learned, it often feels like one.

Lately, I’ve been giving a lot of thought to Imposter Syndrome, the feeling that you’re not actually worth your accomplishments and that, at any moment, someone could pop up and shout, “You! You aren’t actually the thing you claim to be, so sit down and stop pretending that you are!”

This sort of fear is good if you are, say, an actual fraud. Perhaps it will stop you from doing something fraudulent.

For the rest of us, it’s the irritating voice in our heads that stops us from celebrating/talking about/recognising our own achievements to anyone beyond our immediate toddlers or cats. And even then, it might be a whispered “Woohoo”.

hiding_behind_pole-s490x370-196110 Ever feel like this when people ask you about your goals and ambitions? This image basically sums up most of…

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Starting Out as an Indie Author published! This month only 99c

Okay, so I’m not exactly starting out as an indie author, but I am still pretty excited to grab a copy and give it a read! Ruth’s blog is a fantastic and honest look at writing and publishing as an indie author, and I’ve been eagerly awaiting this book. It’s on sale now!

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Starting Out as an Indie Author EBook

Starting Out as an Indie Author has finally been published as an eBook! It took me longer than I expected, but then, what doesn’t, right? 🙂 It’s available now at most major retailers:

Amazon
Barnes & Noble
Kobo
Apple
Google Play

You can find other retailers on Books2read: books2read.com/u/4jKvPY

For the month of March, I’m offering a special introductory price of only 99c to get the ball rolling. I can’t reduce the price on Kobo yet, however, because I signed up for a promo where the minimum price must be at least 2.99. Writing this blog post, I also noticed that the sale price has not gone through everywhere. Soon, I promise!

Here’s the book description and table of contents:

Starting Out as an Indie Author
A Beginner’s Guide to Preparing, Publishing and Marketing Your EBooks

Have you written your first book and are considering self-publishing? Perhaps you have started…

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Social Media Break Update

One week down.

How did it go?

Well, I talk a bit about it in a video I’ll link below. But for those not into videos…

It felt like a start.

I removed Facebook from my phone. That wasn’t the end of it, of course. I made the mistake of leaving Twitter installed, mostly because I kind of hate Twitter and didn’t think it would be an issue.

Talk about underestimating my brain’s distraction addiction.

I slipped up. I needed to use Facebook to talk to my street team group when I was looking for beta readers for this new novella, and I ended up slipping back into the habit of checking notifications way too much. I did use Twitter more than I should have (in spite of how completely unsatisfying it is) because my brain would rather get a quick hit of that feeling of DOING SOMETHING and STIMULATION than be alone with itself for five seconds. I ended up breaking my phone out of phone jail way more than I should have by the end of the week.

But good things came of it.

I did get work done. While it wasn’t any easier for me to make my brain buckle down and start work every day, I at least had fewer alternative uses for my work time. I finished my second draft of Sanctuary, I made corrections and revisions on the aforementioned novella (which I’ll be sending out to newsletter subscribers on my birthday). I got some reading done (Slammed by Colleen Hoover and The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown).

Do I feel calmer and more present? Absolutely not. Actually, if we’re being honest, my anxiety is through the roof right now. Whether that’s FOMO, withdrawal, or what, I don’t know.

So we’ll see how the rest of the month goes.

I got back on Facebook last night so I could attend the (super fun) release party for Krista Walsh’s Song of Wishrock Harbor, and now I’m leaving again.

I’m going to read more. More fiction, more inspiring biographies, more big ideas that my poor foggy brain might not even understand.

I’m going to escape to my own worlds.

I’m going to keep trying to calm and quiet my mind, to be a little more present in my own life.

And I’m definitely deleting Twitter. 😉


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